Tag «Marriage»

Quarter of a Century a.k.a Birthday Post

Welp, today is my bert-day, it’s my bert-day *does hood dance* and I got up wanting to reflect on my quarter of century. Lord knows there were some times where I thought I wouldn’t make it here so He must have something great planned for me in the long run. This morning I woke up …

30+ Men & Their PYTs

So as a recent single woman I’ve noticed something… men who are 30+ love them some PYTs (pretty young thangs). I kid you not, the last few times I’ve went out I’ve been approached by so many 30-something year olds that I felt like I had “Try me, I’m young” written on my forehead! Now, …

New Respect

As you all know or maybe not, whatever, for the last month I have had to do a lot of things/jobs that I’ve never had to do before. And boy do I have a new respect for people who do these things. First on the list –movers. I recently (unexpectedly) switched apartments where I had …

Bad Breakup = Zombie Apocalypse

It’s time to clear my head again, so I suppose I’ll tell y’all about my crazy ass dream last night. Welp, there was a zombie apocalypse. –I know what you all are thinking. No, I did not watch any zombie movies before bed and no, I did not eat right before I fell asleep. The …

Got Baggage??

They clearly call them “ex(es)” for a reason, so why is it that we continue to let them stay with us in spirit, long after their physical presence is gone? It’s like the Ghost of Christmas Ex haunts us in new relationships. Now I understand baggage very well, everybody has it. And while I do …

Love is a Drug, I Don’t Care What You Say

I’m convinced that love is a drug. And I, Ashley La’Shae, am addicted. You can ask any of my friends and they’ll tell you that I’ve been an addict for quite sometime now. I’m not ashamed to say it, maybe my testimony will help somebody else out there. I mean, how else can you explain …

The Real Him/Her

Just once when I meet someone I’m interested in getting to know, I would like to get to know them. Lemme explain, from what I’ve experienced, if you meet a guy tomorrow and decide to go out on a date to get to know each other better, you still don’t know  the guy. You’ve just …

Bob the Builder

Bobbbb the builder! Can we fix it?! Bobbbbb the builder! Yes we can! –Y’all remember this cartoon? *Ahem* Clearly Bob has never tried to fix a relationship. You can fix a lot of things, but some things are just irreparable. My question/rant for today is about “fixing” relationships. Let me state that I think you …

Transparency… or Lack Thereof

As you get older and experience life, you learn a lot about yourself. What you like annnnd… what you don’t like. *Cue Chief Keef That’s that ish I don’t like* In relationships: A lying nigga, that’s that shit I don’t like./ A cheating nigga, that’s that shit I don’t like./ A lazy nigga, that’s that shit …

I’m Grown… Unfortunately.

As a budding adult I’ve realized one thing that is very clear to me. I don’t want to grow up. Back in the day I could not WAIT to be “grown”, but as I get older I realize that being “grown” is highly overrated. If I could somehow alter my past request of “I can’t …

Letter to my Ex

It’s real easy to be pissed at you right now, but then I sit and think that you’re conditioned to be the way you are. Conditioned by the people who were supposed to love you, by the ones who loved you and turned on you, by enemies, by society and by the high security mental …

Sometimes You Feel Like a Nut, Sometimes You Don’t

“We don’t wanna neva end…you walking out you walking back again… I don’t done took your heart boy, held it up for ransom…Ain’t tryna be cocky, I got yo heart in my pocket.” -Future, feat. Kelly Rowland My rant for today is on “off again/on again relationships”. If you’ve never been in one yourself, I’m …

She’s Always Right, He’s Never Wrong…

Sooooo, men commonly argue that “a woman always thinks she’s right” and blah blah blah. Well, I’ve got news for you guys. Men are the EXACT same way. Lemme explain. There are very few men who regularly admit that they are wrong and then apologize. Now don’t get this confused with him apologizing, because men …

You Can’t Handle the Truth!

So folk always talmbout how they want a relationship filled with honesty. Honesty in my opinion is highly overrated.To keep it one hundred withcha, I can only handle so much honesty, I’m too damn sensitive to know the truth all of the time. I can admit that. The problem is, the female you’re dealing with …

Bitter Women vs. Hurt Men

Two words: Double. Standard. Men be sooooooo quick to scrutinize a hurt woman; said woman is usually in one of a few predicaments: She’s been hurt and still coping [bitter] She’s been hurt and doesn’t know how to cope [bitter] She’s been hurt and currently getting hurt [bitter] Men will tear apart a bitter woman, …