Tag «Life»

Playing the Hand you’re Dealt: Present vs. Potential

So I consider myself to be a pretty good judge of character, but I have made the GRAVE mistake in thinking that a good judge of character is synonymous with a good judge of men choice. I have made piss poor choices in men every since I stopped thinking they were stupid and gross in …

Let that Hurt Go: Lessons in Learning your Lesson

Anybody else out there have really realistic dreams or should I say nightmares? I find that what I often try to suppress in my conscious mind often seeps into my subconscious, so either way I’m forced to deal with it. I won’t tell the story of what dream I just woke up from for fear …

#FBF If It Walk Like a Duck

You know what time it is! In preparation for my new series this month focused on “Why Do Men Cheat”, today’s flashback Friday post is called “If It Walk Like a Duck”. Click here to see the post.    When someone shows you who they are, believe them. -Mya Angelou.  Also co-signed by Oprah (above), …

Tis’ the Season

Tis’ the season to be jolly… not broke. If you ever once forgot that you were broke, the holidays will kindly remind you. I’m currently “broke with a bachelor’s and aiming for a master’s”. So the other day, I was trying to figure out what I was going to get my loved ones for Christmas …

What is a Bae?

More recently the term “Bae” has been floating off the lips of damn near every single ready to mingle person I know.  I want to emphasize the fact that I said every single (as in not in a relationship) person I know, because the truth is, there ain’t no couples out there only referring to their …

Stop Recycling…Lovers

I’m so disappointed in myself. I fear that I am on the path to do just what I said I would never do again… recycle ex-baes. It’s about to be that time of the year again, “cuffing season” the point in time where the weather gets colder and the desire to have someone to lay …

50 Shades of Grey: The Whatevership Saga

Alright, so it’s that time again: I can’t sleep I need to vent Mother Nature is kicking my emotional and physical ass So, I feel like it’s safe to say that most women have experienced a whatever-ship in their lives. A whatever-ship is somewhere between a real relationship and a mixed signals/emotions/friends-with-benefits setup. I like …

50 Shades of Grey: The Whatevership Saga

Alright, so it’s that time again: I can’t sleep I need to vent Mother Nature is kicking my emotional and physical ass So, I feel like it’s safe to say that most women have experienced a whatever-ship in their lives. A whatever-ship is somewhere between a real relationship and a mixed signals/emotions/friends-with-benefits setup. I like …

August Goals

“Those who fail to plan, plan to fail.” – Benjamin Franklin So I was inspired by another blogger to post my goals for the month, I thought it was a great idea and a way to help me feel more accomplished by the end of the month. The problem is that I’m such a planner, …

If It Walk Like a Duck

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Simple advice, few embrace it. Why is it so easy to see things in hindsight after you’ve been through hell and high water? Why is it so easy to tell someone else what to do about their situation when you know good and damn well that you wouldn’t/haven’t …

Don’t Waste My Time B

I’ve probably said this before, but there are fewer things that I hate more than wasted time. That has GOT to be one of my biggest pet peeves. I hate inefficiency and I hate bullshittery. Yes I know that’s not a real word, but if it existed, you’d know exactly what it meant. By now …

Ain’t No Pedestal Bihhh

I’ve got a real bad habit of putting men on a pedestal. Of highlighting all their good qualities and thinking that these traits really set them apart from any other human with a penis. When my friends would find wrong in these individuals I’d fight them tooth and nail to defend this man, screaming “you …

Butt Ass Nekkid

Naked. There I was standing butt ass nekkid in front of this man that I loved and that I thought cared about me. Wearing my finest skin suit, I stood approximately 5ft 2in tall of brown sugared body. Baring all my privates, from the cups of my butt cheeks to the curves of each breast …

Cuffing Season Over – Season Recap

So I think it’s safe to say that cuffing season is officially over. (cuffing season. n. A period in time, usually during the winter months, where individuals find a significant other/ boo, to spend time with.) I guess you can say I got pseudo “cuffed”. I entertained a couple of guys. And have since ceased …

He Stinks, Literally.

You know those situations where you’re in the presence of folk you kinda-sorta know but it’s really somewhat circumstantial as to why y’all are in the same space? Those times where that person might have something stuck between their teeth or something in their hair. You analyze the situation to see if you care enough …

10 Tips for Better Box

This is, by no means, a how-to blog. But the idea crossed my mind last week and I thought, what the hell why not? Today’s topic is “How to Have Better Box.” I think it’s only fair that I do 2 posts, one for the womenz on how to provide better box and one for …

Falling in Love with the Representative

My feelings for you were like honey dripping from a wooden spoon into a bowl of sweet unbaked desserts. Slow and sensual, raw and warm. I’d look into your eyes and my heart would ignite and send tingles all over my body. Everything felt like a fairy tale. Magically unbelievably believable. Every day thoughts of …

Thoughts of a Serial Girlfriend

One of the few things I like about getting older, is learning more about yourself. You never realize just how young and dumb you were at one point until you start to get old and wise. I’m woman enough to confess that I was relationship(ally) dumb. Thank God I’m smarter now, but that thang was …

Does Size Matter?

Alright, today’s topic is a sensitive one. I’m asking does size really matter… And before I get started, get your minds out of the gutter, ya nasties. I’m talking about body size/stature. J/k, I’m also talking about “joysticks” (we’ll use this word for the sake of making this post a little less raunchy). In regards …

Being Alone, but Not Lonely

Relationships have all the power to totally consume your life. Ever break up with someone and just be totally lost? Not like, OMG where am I going, I’m directionally challenged? or Woe is me, what will I do without the love of my life? No. As in, like what the hell did I do before …