It Goes Down in the DMs: The Truth about Community D

So here recently after some intense girl talk, I’ve determined that it does indeed go down in the DM. Social media has made your average person 100 times more accessible and appealing, and with nothing but cyber space and opportunity, nobodies think they’re somebodies and all the wires have been crossed. There is no such …

People Presents: Unwrapping the Truth

I truly think that every person is a gift and has a gift. Depending on how a gift is wrapped, people tend to judge the quality of what’s inside it. Think about it like Christmas time when you were a child. Chances are you snuck under the tree when your parents weren’t looking to see …

Ashley’s Anecdotes: Baby Mama Brawl…Butt Ass Naked Pt 2

I finally make it “home” and was there all of 3 days before we get into fight. I honestly don’t even remember why we were fighting, I was probably being needy, tired of asking him to spend quality time with me (because that’s my love language). He left one night, didn’t come home. I’m sitting …

Ashley’s Anecdotes: Baby Mama Brawl…Butt Ass Naked

So almost exactly a year ago I published That’s Not Yo Bae Bish where I mentioned a bunch of situations that were seemingly hypothetical, but were actually real life events. I promise, I couldn’t make this shit up if I tried. At the time I said that I would do a slow leak where I …

How to Find the “One”: 5 Keys

If you thought this was gonna be some flowery post about how to find your one true love, you are clearly new to my blog. This a guide on how to spot the not. So just about every girl has that “one guy”. The one who has broken her heart countless times, the one she …

So Why Are You Single? 6 Reasons Why You’re Still Single

I absolutely LOATHE this question. 1. Because EVERY new possibae asks it. 2. Because after being asked so many times, it’s like damn why the hell am I single? A real humbling experience when you start to think something is wrong with you. Every new possibae I meet: So why are you single? Me (in …

Who Ain’t Got No Job: For the Broke, Broken & Unemployed

I think that I have FINALLY gotten to a place where I can talk about one of my most trying times in 2015. To be honest, before I was entirely too embarrassed and felt way too vulnerable and defeated to share my struggle. But today I’ll be 100% transparent because my testimony might be something …

How to Avoid Wack D: (S)Expectations

If I had a set of magical powers or special abilities, one of those abilities as a female would be the power to take my sex back. Like have you ever did the nasty with someone and found out that it was a complete waste of your time and body count? Like the dude just …

Message to the Side-Chick/New Girl

So I figure I can’t be the only one who has ever had a man (now an ex) be like “you don’t event have to worry about her, we’re just <insert lying ass statement here>” only for him to turn around and do some ole fuck shit with the same girl you weren’t supposed to …

Playing the Hand you’re Dealt: Present vs. Potential

So I consider myself to be a pretty good judge of character, but I have made the GRAVE mistake in thinking that a good judge of character is synonymous with a good judge of men choice. I have made piss poor choices in men every since I stopped thinking they were stupid and gross in …

Let that Hurt Go: Lessons in Learning your Lesson

Anybody else out there have really realistic dreams or should I say nightmares? I find that what I often try to suppress in my conscious mind often seeps into my subconscious, so either way I’m forced to deal with it. I won’t tell the story of what dream I just woke up from for fear …

#FBF If It Walk Like a Duck

You know what time it is! In preparation for my new series this month focused on “Why Do Men Cheat”, today’s flashback Friday post is called “If It Walk Like a Duck”. Click here to see the post.    When someone shows you who they are, believe them. -Mya Angelou.  Also co-signed by Oprah (above), …

Tis’ the Season

Tis’ the season to be jolly… not broke. If you ever once forgot that you were broke, the holidays will kindly remind you. I’m currently “broke with a bachelor’s and aiming for a master’s”. So the other day, I was trying to figure out what I was going to get my loved ones for Christmas …

What is a Bae?

More recently the term “Bae” has been floating off the lips of damn near every single ready to mingle person I know.  I want to emphasize the fact that I said every single (as in not in a relationship) person I know, because the truth is, there ain’t no couples out there only referring to their …

Ain’t No Bae Bih

Presenting my first ever #TakeoverTuesday! The following post is brought to you by featured guest blogger CHADxTALKS. Comment, share, enjoy! What do you think of when you hear the word “bae?” Most people use this term to refer to their significant other, basically a shortened version of “babe” or “baby.” It has even developed into …

Stop Recycling…Lovers

I’m so disappointed in myself. I fear that I am on the path to do just what I said I would never do again… recycle ex-baes. It’s about to be that time of the year again, “cuffing season” the point in time where the weather gets colder and the desire to have someone to lay …

50 Shades of Grey: The Whatevership Saga

Alright, so it’s that time again: I can’t sleep I need to vent Mother Nature is kicking my emotional and physical ass So, I feel like it’s safe to say that most women have experienced a whatever-ship in their lives. A whatever-ship is somewhere between a real relationship and a mixed signals/emotions/friends-with-benefits setup. I like …

50 Shades of Grey: The Whatevership Saga

Alright, so it’s that time again: I can’t sleep I need to vent Mother Nature is kicking my emotional and physical ass So, I feel like it’s safe to say that most women have experienced a whatever-ship in their lives. A whatever-ship is somewhere between a real relationship and a mixed signals/emotions/friends-with-benefits setup. I like …

August Goals

“Those who fail to plan, plan to fail.” – Benjamin Franklin So I was inspired by another blogger to post my goals for the month, I thought it was a great idea and a way to help me feel more accomplished by the end of the month. The problem is that I’m such a planner, …