When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Simple advice, few embrace it.
- Why is it so easy to see things in hindsight after you’ve been through hell and high water?
- Why is it so easy to tell someone else what to do about their situation when you know good and damn well that you wouldn’t/haven’t taken your own advice when you were in that situation?
I think it’s programmed in women to look for things beyond what is right in front of us. We’re ALWAYS trying to read between the lines and analyze whatever has been said and done.
Guy: I don’t think this is gonna work out, we should go separate ways. <– A little ambiguity initially but still fairly clear.
Girl: Whyyyy?! *Cries, yells, throws objects* … *stalks on social media for 2 months* After conversations with herself and her girlfriends she decides maybe she can convince him that they could work.
I get it, you want to know because that’s basic human instinct but whether you get the why or not you have to be able to accept things as they are and move on. Don’t go chasing waterfalls.
Guy: I really care about you, you’re all I want. *Only calls/texts when he’s in need. Entertains other women. Doesn’t spend quality time*
Girl: *swoons* *gets upset repeatedly* *confronts other babes*
ABORT MISSION. I repeat, ABORT MISSION.
I’m a huge fan of the saying “actions speak louder than words”. Any human with the good sense God gave them can tell you what you want to hear, but if they’re only words and no follow up –don’t fall for it.
A lot more things are black and white than what we acknowledge. Either something is or it isn’t.
If I tell you “Baby, I’ll never hurt you” and then I slap the taste out your mouth out of nowhere, repeatedly… how many times does it take me high-fiving your face for you to believe that
- I didn’t mean it when I said I wouldn’t hurt you
- I’m a nut job
Maybe that was an extreme example, but you get the point. If a person is emotionally smacking you upside the heart, why would you continue to let them do it and how long are you gonna let it continue before you wise up?
Don’t get me wrong, some things are complicated. Like trigonometry and biochemistry. Who you connect with and who you allow to latch on to you, shouldn’t be amongst the complications.
This year I’ve been pruning my life; getting rid of anything or anyone that won’t contribute to the growth of me as an individual. If you give any person enough time, AND are willing to really see them, they will show you who they are. It’s up to you to decide what you’ll do when you finally see it. A lot of people will ignore it, make excuses for it but if it walk like a duck, and talk like a duck, that my friend, is a duck. <–Sorry I’m country.
I never know where my posts are gonna go to be honest, started off talking about romantic relationships but there’s definitely some people/friendships that need to be reevaluated but I digress. I have GOT to tell y’all the lessons I got from Texas, stay tuned and for now get them squares up out ya circle.