So back in 2014 (all 2 months ago), folk swore up and down that they were leaving certain people behind and weren’t gonna bring them into the new year. Myself included. Well, we all know that was bullshit don’t we?
The problem with “leaving people behind” is two-fold: 1. Said person probably doesn’t want to detach from you or else you wouldn’t have to “leave” them. 2. YOU probably don’t want to leave them but have just decided that it is better for you if you do.
Now I’ll be the first to admit that I have a serious problem removing toxic people from my life. I’m an emotional hoarder; I hold on to the good times and memories and manage to push the bad times to the back of my memory bank only to be retrieved in moments of emotional warfare. This flaw has put me in a lot of
fucked messed up situations over the years.
So in light of popular songs that praise “cutting people off”, they’re extremely fun to shout in the club, but pretty unrealistic for a lot of people in real life. “Ain’t nothing to cut that bish off.” “I don’t. F*ck with. Yooouuuu!” <Insert eye roll> You sir, have not cut that bish off. And in the case of statement, “I don’t f*ck with you (IDFWU)”, the lie detector test determined THAT was a lie. *Maury voice*
Don’t get me wrong, I am an advocate for purging people and things from your life that don’t add value to it because as sensible human beings that’s what we should do. Emphasis on the should. It took me a long time to learn how to distance myself from the bullshit and I can’t imagine that I’m the only one. But you know what really irritates the hell out of me? When I’ve made a sound decision that IDFWU and you will not go on somewhere.
Think of it this way, those people that you’re trying to let go of are like parasites. Parasites don’t willingly let go of their hosts. They rely on them to feed them and give them life, letting go of it’s host is like suicide for them. That’s why if you’re the host, you may feel drained and irritable because this parasite is stealing all of your nutrition and you’re not yourself when your hungry.
You don’t need a snickers.
You need to detox your life. Detox: to rid the body of toxic or unhealthy substances. Your “substance” could be any number of things, for the sake of this post I’m talking about fake friends and no-good menz/wimmenz. So rid yourself of those hatingass-bitchass-talkbehindyourbackbutwontsayittoyourfaceass-wannabeyouass-wolfinsheepsclothingass friends and those sorryass-itmeantnothingass-illneverdoitagainass-pleaseforgivemeass-lyingcheatingass significant/insignificant others. *Ahem* Pardon my French.
You can’t possibly be your best you if you’re allowing toxic relationships/friendships to seep into your blood stream, run wild in your mind and take the wheel the on your emotional Navigator everyday. So if you were one of those who said “I’m leaving such and such in 2014” but they’re riding shotgun with you in 2015, I encourage you to commit to your better self by detoxifying your life. That way when we’re yelling “I DONT. F*CK WITH. YOUUUU!” in the club, you’ll know it’s a way of life and not just a stupid song lyric.
Katt Williams said it best, “There may be bugs, on some of you mugs, but there ain’t no bugs on me. Star playa!”